|Posted on March 20, 2015 at 3:45 PM|
For me personally I believe that Happiness is an emotional state of being, not an end goal. In the past I had attached my happiness to external future circumstances, saying things in my mind like “I’ll be happy when I get a partner” or I’’ll be happy when I finally finish this project” or “I’ll be happy when I go on holidays” The biggest problem I found with that type of thinking was that I never got to experience true happiness and if I did, it was only for a fleeting moment until I moved the goal posts again! This left me feeling depleted, exhausted and overwhelmed. It didn’t allow me to have the energy that I needed to enjoy life and I found myself constantly focused in the future, instead of embracing and enjoying what was right in front of me at that present time. I believe that Happiness comes from within, rather than from some external source. When I am living my life in a state of constant gratitude and appreciation for everything in my life and being truly present and consciously awake and aware in each moment is when I feel pure peace and bliss.
I am able to remain in a joyous and happy state of mind through letting go of my expectations and attachments to needing things, life or myself or others to be a certain way and by loving reality as it is. I found that every time that I had the thought “This should be different” or “I shouldn’t have said/done that” or “They should have done………” it caused me angst, resentment, frustration, anger, sadness, guilt and lots of other unpleasant emotions. Falling in love with “What Is” through questioning our thoughts (www.thework.com) is one of the best ways to experience peace, calm and pure joy! (Whenever we fight reality it causes suffering)
Anytime I am being; Loving, Accepting, Blessing, Joyous and Grateful about anything, brings me the greatest joy imaginable. Sometimes we may get caught up in the doing and forget that it is who we are being whilst we are doing whatever it is that we are doing, that brings us the most happiness. Have you ever been totally smitten and fallen in love with a new born baby that you were holding for the first time? Their total innocence and angelic nature has you totally focused with awe, love and appreciation? We think that it is the baby that is making us feel so wonderful, but it is actually that we are being so Loving and Grateful and Joyous in that moment that, makes it feel that the doing ie; holding the baby is what makes us feel so happy. Through being self-aware of who we are being at any given time gives us complete responsibility for our own happiness.
From this place I am totally responsible and in control of my own happiness. It is always available to me regardless of what is happening in my life.
The best part about life is that we have freedom of choice. We get to make choices and create our own meaning on anything that we experience in life.
Some may see a great challenge or a blessing in a particular event, others may see it as the worst thing that ever happened to them and use it as a reason why their life is so horrible for years afterwards, recreating and living that event over and over in their mind many times, not stopping to realise that they have a choice to change the meaning of that event and how they feel about it and therefore creating a new life by changing their thoughts and therefore their feelings and their total experience of life.
I'd love to help you make 2015 one of the Happiest years of your life! Please message me if there's an area of your life that you'd like to experience more Happiness, Success and Fulfilment in. Let's rock 2015!
Categories: Self Love and Empowerment